Thursday, 9 December 2021

Everybody Cannot Be A Nurse In UK



Please know this and know peace o!! Let me repeat it again for those at the back....EVERYBODY CANNOT BE A NURSE IN UK!! 


I am saying this because of something that happened last night in a UK Telegram group I belong to where some people came to ask for help as regards the course they are currently studying as Masters in the UK in a bid to stay behind after their studies.



They were complaining bitterly of how they were struggling to keep up and one lady mentioned coming from a banking background and now studying nursing in the UK. She spoke of how she is still clueless of what is going on in class and how she regrets taking this step.



Another person was even telling her she is lucky that ''python'' is swallowing him here in UK as he is studying Artificial Intelligence and Data, an IT course that he knows nothing about and only picked it because ''people'' said UK needs IT personnel.


The conversation was way deeper than this with some people even regretting coming over here to study in UK in the first place while some others were castigating them and asking them not to be ungrateful as other people wanted to be in their shoes.


Hmmmmm....it's no secret that so many people are currently pursuing the educational route to the UK right now because of the 2 year post graduate 'work permit you will get afterwards. If you are then lucky and get a job that sponsors you, then apply for a Tier 2 visa which will allow you stay on for another 5 years and then if you get luckier, your journey towards getting a permanent residency begins!


While this is all fantastic, it still needs a lot of prayers and wisdom. I understand positioning yourself to take advantage especially since there is a shortage in health sectors and also the IT sector is currently seeing a boom. However, please position yourself where you know you will thrive and stand out.



Another thing you should also know is that strange as it might seem, ''oyinbo'' people here in the UK prefer people with experience. In fact so many of the people you will work with might not even have attended a university talk less of getting a Masters degree! This is because over here, they train you to work right from colleges where you would have gained the practical work experience to take on higher roles without necessarily going to the university.


Moreover, even studying a Masters in an area you are familiar with is not easy, how much more, studying a Masters in an area you know NOTHING about. Don't get me wrong, some people might have done it and succeeded at it but are you them? Everyone has their own unique life journey and experience so please be careful who you copy! (Photocopy ko easy!!)


Besides, as long as you commit your way into the hands of God, He will direct your steps. God can break protocols for your sake if only you can believe and allow Him lead you, circumstances will work together for your good. A lot of things are already changing immigration wise because of the Covid pandemic and strange as it seems, it is favoring a lot of people!


Right now, there is already a new Scale Up Visa just introduced a few weeks ago in the UK that doesn't even need you to work in either the health or IT sector as long as you can get a job of a particular salary band in any profession.


Furthermore, now in the UK there is now a crazy shortage in retail jobs and even catering jobs! The other day I saw a vacancy for a store manager with a salary of 35,000 pounds yearly! Another one was for a Chef for 27,000 pounds yearly! The list goes on and on!


Listen up, because everybody is doing something does NOT mean you should do it too. Learn to be sensitive in the spirit and prayerfully take any decision you need to make. At the end of the day, its every man for himself and to each his own. So do that which you can that will not lead to you complaining, grumbling all the time and at the end sounding ungrateful and having tales of woe despite the contrary.



If despite all this my story you still want to enter and study in any of these areas of health, nursing or IT, then go get physical and practical experience in it because at the end of the day, it is not what is being taught in your Masters class as theory that you will work with but the actual practical stuff.



Like it says somewhere in the Bible, wisdom is profitable to direct, I  COME IN PEACE OOOOOO.....LOL!!


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Sunday, 5 December 2021

Must You Gain The World & Lose Your Child?

 


I have wanted to write about this topic for a while but I needed God to help me with the direction with which to write it so I don't come across as being judgmental in any way.


Furthermore, I have met many single mums whose children are not with them for various reasons among which is either the husband/partner decided to take the child(ren) or the mothers are just not financially able to take care of them.


However, what about those single mums who are financially able to take care of their kids but just decide to leave them with someone else for the sake of convenience or to be able to build a career? I have even heard of cases where the children are left with other family members so the single mum can easily get a man to marry!


I am a single mum of 2 children and I know it isn't easy for men to take you on with a child talk less of 2, 3 or more. On the other hand, I have also heard of women in such situations who have gone ahead to marry men who accepted them warts and all (forgive my language). 


In the course of walking this single mum path which is full of stigma, silent accusations and sometime wrong insinuations, one thing that has kept me going is having my children with me and knowing come rain or shine we are together.


Looking at them motivates me to hustle more to make them happy, to make them become useful to themselves & the society and that remains my driving force. Yes, I have had to do menial jobs in the past just to ensure they feed but at the end of the day seeing them turn out right makes it worth it for me. 

It is bad enough that as a single mum you can't give them the right atmosphere of mummy and daddy living together but must you now make it worse by allowing them be with relatives no matter how good their intentions?


Please don't get me wrong, like I initially mentioned, if it is financially difficult raising your child(ren) by yourself that is another matter entirely. BUT if you are in a financially okay position but you still leave that child(ren) with relatives, I advise you have a rethink because if your child starts to see that relative as a higher authority than you, there is a problem.

If that child has a stronger bond with that relative than you, there is a problem and if that child cannot connect with you emotionally, then that is a BIG problem. Furthermore, if that child turns out badly, then that is even a BIGGER problem and another difficult matter entirely.


The maternal & parental bond is a very strong one that shouldn't be taken for granted and most children thrive on it. When I first lost my banking job, my mum offered for me to send my children to her to help take care of them so I could get back on my feet. Much as it looked like a very viable option for me, I had to refuse it because growing up I was usually sent to my cousins house to stay because my mum traveled a lot and honestly, I went through stuff some of which I never even mentioned to her till today. 



Besides, I ended up developing an emotional disconnect and a vacuum which affected my relationship with people generally for a long time. In fact my broken marriage stemmed from the fact that I  was so emotionally needy I didn't want to be alone so I got married in haste without even observing due dilligence as the case may be and see where I found myself. 

A lot of what we go through as adults take root from our childhood hence we need to be very careful the kind of upbringing we expose our children to no matter the seemingly right reason.



Let me reiterate again that I am not being judgmental or blaming anyone who might be in this situation. The truth is as a parent either single or married, you have a commitment to support and nurture your child no matter what. 

My prayer is that God will make a way where there seems to be none and if He has already made a way, please take back your children and become responsible for their emotional well being and I can assure you that they will thank you for it someday.
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12 Bible Verses To Ginger You This December

 


The hardest thing to do as a child of God is hold to the word of God on when things look bleak. Sometimes it even gets to the point when you begin to wonder if God is even listening to you but brethren, He is always there, even closer than we think in those times we need Him the most.

Especially in recent times when all sorts are happening and so many people are losing loved ones and its beginning to be evident that there is so much wickedness in the world.

Below are 12 Bible verses to give you strength to keep going at those moments:

1. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. – Philippians 4:13

2. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go. – Joshua 1:9

3. Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you. – Deuteronomy 31:6

4. Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. – Ephesians 6:10

5. The LORD is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts, and I am helped; my heart exults, and with my song I give thanks to him. – Psalm 28:7

6. I will go in the strength of the Lord GOD; I will make mention of Your righteousness, of Yours only. – Psalm 71:16

7. But they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. – Isaiah 40:31

8. Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may obtain it. – 1 Corinthians 9:24

9. Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us. – Hebrews 12:1

10. Not by might, nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the LORD of hosts. – Zechariah 4:6

11. For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. – 2 Timothy 1:7

12. It is God who arms me with strength, And makes my way perfect. – Psalm 18:32









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UK Bans Travellers From Nigeria Because of Omicron Covid Virus



As people are probably planning to travel to celebrate Christmas, more countries continue to put travel restrictions in place and unfortunately Nigeria has now been added to the UK red list.


What this means is that travelers from Nigeria would not be permitted to enter the United Kingdom beginning from Monday, 6th December 2021 due to the the growing concerns over an outbreak of the Omicron variant of the coronavirus.


This is definitely bad news for so many people who must have booked their tickets for this December. Unfortunately, according to reports from the gov.uk website, 21 cases of Omicron were reported in England which are linked to travel from Nigeria,


This is also coming a few days after Canada extended its travel ban to travelers who recently visited Nigeria.




Meanwhile, the UK health minister, Sajid Javid, said only residents and citizens of the UK and Ireland travelling from Nigeria would be allowed entry into the region. Even those ones will have to quarantine for 10 days at a government managed facility and the fees they will have to pay no be small thing o as can be seen above.


Hopefully this will be reviewed in about 3 weeks as the official said the measures are required to slow the spread of the new variant while scientists work to understand more about the transmissibility and implications for vaccine effectiveness of the variant.


Some other African countries also put on the red list include Angola, Botswana, Eswatini, Lesotho, Malawi, Mozambique, Namibia, South Africa, Zambia, Zimbabwe. 


Personally, I think its because we are in the winter period and the cold weather might be a trigger for the Covid which sometimes presents flu like symptoms.


Either way, I am hopeful that this too will pass just like last year when it just came up and there was lockdown practically everywhere.


The Omicron variant is a new form of Covid-19 labelled as a “variant of concern” by the World Health Organisation (WHO) which means scientists are worried about it. Omicron is the Greek letter for O, continuing WHO’s Greek alphabet naming convention for Covid-19 variants.


So for now, we are back to wearing our nose masks everywhere, regular washing of hands, using hand sanitisers and please if you can, take the Covid vaccine to avoid stories that touch because its obvious that this covid isn't going anywhere soon.



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Friday, 3 December 2021

Children Killing Children Even In Nigeria, What Is Going On?






I honestly wish I didn't have to write about such a topic but it is becoming too rampant and it seems, like God forbid it will become a ''norm'' and life will just continue like that. I am still shaking at the video making the rounds of this 12 year old boy above, Sylvester Oronomi, who was bullied to death in a high brow school in Lagos.




This is just few days after I saw the news of a 15 year old boy, Ethan Crumbley in Michigan who shot and killed 4 students and injured 7 others at Oxford High School! As in, he went to school with a gun and intentionally and deliberately shot at them...Oh my God!!!



As regards poor Sylvester, according to reports, some boys bullied him, beat him up and forced him to drink a poisonous substance and as if that wasn't bad enough, the so called high brow school tried to cover up by saying he got injured when playing football!


This is at Dowen College, a school where the fees is almost one million Naira per term meaning it is not a cheap school and more protocol and due diligence should have been put in place. 


But then, how about the children who carried out this dastardly act? They were teenagers between 14 and 15. How did they have the boldness and effrontery to go beat up another child and force him to drink a poisonous substance? What was their intention and what were they trying to achieve? 


That's not even all, the story gets worse as reports state that they beat him up supposedly because they wanted him to join a cult! A cult at that age? A cult in a boarding school? I am in serious shock right now! A child is dead and he was practically killed by other children. Before he died, he mentioned the names of 4 boys who did this to him and I heard via social media that two of this boys have been snuck out of the school and flown abroad already....haaa God ooo!


This is really alarming and scary because it goes beyond what we are seeing. It is becoming a global societal problem that is not limited to both local and international borders. Is it a parenting problem? Are children being given too much freedom especially with this internet age we are in? What exactly is the problem?



This bullying issue is becoming very worrisome too, because the rippling effects goes even beyond the child being bullied to the society at large. There were also rumors that the American boy, Ethan was also being bullied prior to him shooting and killing his school mates.


While I will say we continue to pray more for our children, I will also ask that we reassess our parenting because often time some of these children are actually acting out based on either what they see, hear or experience at home. Some are even being abused at home and then they get to school and lash out at others.


May God continue to help us all and give us more wisdom with our children. May the souls of the departed rest in peace and may God strengthen their family and loved ones with the fortitude to bear this unfortunate and very tragic loss.



Pic Credit (Ethan Crumbley)

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Wednesday, 1 December 2021

Do I Have Sexual Urges As A Single Mum?

 



Its so funny how nowadays when my period is sometimes late, I am not even bothered unlike before when I would have started fretting, getting worried and negotiating with God (as if na Him send me message...Lol) Not that I wasn't practicing safe sex at that time but you know how anything can happen especially when you are not even supposed to be doing such in the first place?


The issue of sex outside marriage remains a tough one for people who have been married before especially as regards living a holy life as children of God. I remember when I discussed leaving my marriage with one of my pastors many years ago and he said his major fear for me was how I would cope without sex.


                   


     

I laughed and said sex was the least of my problems and it was never a big deal for me. Boy was I wrong! Initially I was forming holier than thou, then I got carried away and then felt very guilty but I won't lie, good sex is actually something that one craves from time to time either you are married or single.



So why am I going on about sex today of all days? Its because a friend (a single mum) and I were chatting and she told me sex is not even on her agenda and that even if the urge comes she will turn to sex toys. I laughed and told her masturbation sef na sin!


However, the truth is, sexual urges will come as a single person. That part of us was created by God for a reason even though it is only to be explored in a union of marriage but hey, EMOTIONS DON"T KNOW BOUNDARIES.


For me, it continues to be a major prayer point because while I won't claim to have been celibate all this while, I now understand why God doesn't want us to fornicate. As my relationship with God grows, it has gotten to the point where if I indulge in such, I get this unrest within me and I am just not at peace with myself. Also, some things in my life just don't go well like they should and I feel like the sex is the cause of it(I might be wrong but like I said this is just my opinion)


Does that mean the sexual urge has disappeared? (For where? Lol! It hasn't o!) I still feel like it sometimes but then I remember the consequences which I personally go through which could sometimes be delays to some prayer points and then I immediately kick the urge out of my mind (Not easy though make I no lie!)


Please know that getting to this point is not an easy road and there may be some slip-ups along the line but with time and if your relationship with God is on point, He will help you to stand firm but you need to take it ONE DAY AT A TIME.


I am still a serious work in progress so don't even think I have become a master celibate queen (if there is anything like that, Lol)...abeg I still dream of a guy with Moris Chestnut body, Micheal Ealy eyes or RMD's character in the movie Fine Wine which I recently watched, also very passionate about God, coming to sweep me off my feet.


The struggle is real and like I promised with this blog, it is to encourage you and make you understand you are not alone with those kind of feelings. 





However, you can overcome them gradually and get to that point where you can boldly stand tall and say you are in a good place BUT this is only when you develop a close relationship and fellowship with God such that before you do anything it becomes a case of what would Jesus Do?



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Being Consistent Is Not Always Good



This....made me pause and think which is why I am sharing it here.


Stay with me, I am going somewhere with this ok? I know we have been led to see being consistent as a good thing and yes of course it is, but being consistent at what?  The Miriam Webster dictionary defines consistent as always acting or behaving the same way or having the same quality.


However, the truth is that you can be consistently doing wrong things and getting terrible results while the opposite will be the case if you consistently do what is right. Therefore being consistent is not necessarily the problem but what you are being consistent at(please read this again slowly...Lol)



I have had moments in my life where I was consistently doing a particular thing for a while but it ended up yielding me nothing because of so many factors beyond my control. I then decided to focus that consistency on something else and I got more results in a shorter time period.


This is especially for so many of us who want to follow our passion or what we love to do. While its a great route to go, you must also be reminded of the fact that your passion might not always pay your bills and you just need to be truthful with yourself.


Please don't get me wrong, there are so many people being consistent with following their passion and doing great at it but I can categorically tell you that there was a process involved that had them doing something else to nurture and groom that passion before it eventually yielded for them positively. 


Sometimes we need to do a personal life audit on ourselves and check out what is going right, what is going wrong and how to make it work!


Which is why as we gradually come to the end of this year I want to advise that you do this personal audit of your life and see where you might need to stop being consistent in doing the wrong thing🙂😉


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