Tuesday, 14 December 2021

True Confession, I was Never Married

Well, according to the recent news that any marriage contracted at the Ikoyi Registry is null and void which was where I got my certificate! As in, this means I shouldn't have paid my lawyer for the divorce carried out and that money wasn't cheap o! 

Reports making the rounds state that a Federal High Court sitting in Lagos has ordered the closure of all federal marriage registries opened by the ministry, including the Ikoyi Marriage Registry, with immediate effect while noting that it is unconstitutional for federal government registries to conduct marriages.

Okay, on a serious note and jokes apart ''sha'' this month would have been my 19th wedding anniversary but I only made it to year 7 which in my opinion and in hindsight now,  was 7 years too long! I look back and wonder how I was able to even make it through those 7 years, but then it just goes to show how you can do anything if you put your mind to it.

However, this post is NOT to bash my ex in anyway because at the end of the day it takes two people to either make or break a marriage. Besides, over the years we have both grown up enough to understand that we were never meant for each other and if we had both known better we would never have gotten married in the first place.

Personally, I just wanted to be married at all costs as I was following a blueprint in my head of finishing university, getting a job and next marriage. So I didn't pay due diligence as I should and I also had the mental picture of marriage being something to be ENDURED and not ENJOYED.

Honestly, marriage is about two people willing to come together as one, sacrifice for each other and also be selfless with each other. That is, two people that will complement each other and work towards bringing out the best in each other no matter how hard it might seem.

However, I truly commend those who are still married and truly care about each other and even love each other, because of a truth it is not particularly always rosy or easy especially with life challenges and issues. And to those who are really happily married, mehn....you are the real MVPs a big shout out and WELLDONE to you!

Interestingly, looking at this picture today I remember vividly that it was a fake smile that didn't quite reach my eyes because I already knew it wasn't going to be an happily ever after situation. The signs were already there but I chose to ignore them with the hope of managing and just taking it as my cross to bear but then it became too unbearable in the long run and I RAN!

Today, I want to encourage those looking to get married to do a proper audit of both yourself and your partner. Are you really ready to go the long haul no matter what? This is because if you experience a failed marriage it will affect you on all fronts physically, spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and even financially for many years to come.

Did I mention even legally? especially when you realize the hurdles to dissolve a marriage in the courts not to mention the expensive cost of a good lawyer Sometimes that can be another battleground that will again require so much from you!

At the end of the day the simple way to just say it is, please SHINE YOUR EYE WELL WELL😁😉 

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